Think about it. How many times have you let something come out of your mouth that you immediately regretted saying? You think you have a great point to make only to find that you would have been better off keeping quiet. Many of us do it on a daily basis. You might possibly be one of those people as well. What can we learn together here?
The tongue is a dangerous weapon that absolutely must be kept in check. One of your strongest filters must be placed here. I often hear people make comments about how, “so and so just has no filter. They just say whatever comes to mind.” This is not a good thing. I think some people pride themselves on having the freedom to just say whatever they want without any care as to how it affects everyone around them. I worry about people like this. We must keep our tongues in check. Scripture even supports it.
Proverbs 13:3 (ESV) – Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life; he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.
One of the greatest tools that we can develop is the ability to control our tongue. Sure, you wanna say what is on your mind. However, try to look down the road a bit. What is going to be the outcome? Is is something that absolutely needs to be said?
Every once in a while (about once a year), Elisa and I will get into a huge argument about something. Probably 99% of the time, it is because I thought that I knew better than she did in regards to something that she definitely knew better than me about. During these moments, I think of millions of things that need to be said, only to find out quickly that they didn’t actually need to be said at all. We have this mental record of all the things that we do right and that our spouse does wrong and they just spill out during an argument. Gretchen Rubin refers to this as “attempting to keep score” and it is dangerous.
Here’s the deal. All of us feel justified in saying the things that we say to each other. It would be silly of us to say them if we didn’t feel that way. However, think about what you say before you let the words leave your lips. You can never take them back and they have the potential to be very destructive.