Life can get pretty busy. We all have jobs. We all have responsibilities. We all have things that we have to stay plugged into on a regular basis. Many people really struggle to find downtime. And what I mean by that is that many people have so much going on in their lives that it’s hard for them to just sit down and relax or share a moment with the people that matter the most to them.
My children are often looking for my attention. I’m not always willing to give it to them because sometimes there are just things that have to be done. However, once those things are completed, I have to make a decision. Am I going to spend my free time with them or am I going to spend it on projects or other things?
I’m probably not alone here. I think we all probably struggle with this on some level. I guess there are probably perfect parents out there that never put aside their children’s desires so they can pursue their own. That’s just not me. I don’t necessarily think that I’m a selfish person. But, I do have a tendency to put my own wants ahead of my families at times. This is not in a financial sense but more in regards to how I spend my free time.
It’s easy for me to excuse projects as something of importance when they’re really not. It’s also easy for me to justify wanting to watch TV instead of playing in the yard. This is especially true if I feel like I’ve had it extremely hard day and deserve the break.
But, we have to remember that there will be plenty of time to watch television when our children are adults. There will be plenty of time for me to finish up these projects whenever my children are at friends house or doing something else with their time.
Now, don’t misunderstand what I’m saying. I am a firm believer in telling my children no. I am definitely not a yes-man when it comes to my kids.
I think that it can be dangerous to always tell our kids yes to everything that they ask us. It has a tendency to build up a sense of entitlement that is really hard to get rid of once they get older. I talk about that quite a bit in my book.
However, if you have free time to spend with your kids and you’re not working on something that is absolutely necessary at that moment, stop what you’re doing and spend some time with them.
Life is Strange. Live it Well.