Many of us struggle with the same problem. We struggle with asking for help. In our minds, we feel like we should be able to meet all of the challenges that come up against us in life. It’s put into our brain at a young age to be able to take care of our problems. Don’t put the burden of your challenges off on another person.
However, that’s not great advice. And, it shouldn’t be that difficult for us to ask for help. I mean, there are plenty of times that we do it on a regular basis without even thinking about it. Every time you take your car to the shop to get an oil change, you are asking someone else to do something that you are perfectly capable of doing yourself (I do this too.)
That’s just one easy example even if it doesn’t perfectly fit into the rest of this narrative. We do this, not because we can’t, but because we do not want to. It is much more convenient to pay someone else for the task then to do it ourselves. Yet, there are some things that we do not seek help with that could have much more long reaching effects.
Parenting is a perfect example of this. Having worked in residential care for nearly a decade, I have seen endless numbers of families that should have been asking for help much sooner than they actually did. See, we took in kids that were often on the verge of legal problems and their families had no idea where to turn.
Disclaimer: This picture was borrowed without permission from Harley Morenstein on Facebook. Also, the picture’s intent is to show that we should not hesitate to find someone who can accomplish that which we cannot. Please do not choke your children or let anyone else do it either.
It’s unfortunate but it doesn’t have to be that way. Parenting is tough work but you’re not living your life on a deserted island. You don’t have to do it by yourself. Find a network. Involve your extended family. Plug into a church. Find a network of other parents to engage with. Everyone has their own ways when it comes to raising children and there is much that we can learn from each other.
Example #1: Chad & Casey Kerns
Example #2: Lonnie & Mary Forth
Example #3: John & Danielle Puig
Example #4: Chuck & Adrien McFaddon
Just don’t do it alone.
Remember, it takes a village to raise a child.
If you’re reading this and you feel like you are struggling to get it together as a parent, know that you are not alone. Your struggles are probably not that different than what the rest of us are going through as well. Reach out, we will reach back. I will reach back.
Life is Strange. Live it Well.