When I was in my early twenties, I shared an apartment with a friend of mine in Flora, IL. We had lived in this apartment for a couple years or something like that when I did one of the stupidest things that a guy could have done. I totally broke bro-code in the worst of ways.
See, he had been dating this girl for a year or so and they had recently broken up. She was moving on. He had not. Anyways, without going into the details, she and I began dating without even having so much as a single conversation with my roommate about it (because selfish me wanted it, nothing else mattered). Things got bad (obviously) and I moved out. He and I maintained a strained friendship that really never was the same. He has since forgiven me. He has married and has a fantastic family. However, I never really forgave myself.
But then, a few years later, I did the EXACT SAME THING to another friend of mine after I moved to Charleston.
If you do not learn from your mistakes, you are doomed to repeat them, right?
I share this to say one thing. It is a good thing for us to be aware of the stupid decisions that we make in life. Heck, even write them down and look over them from time to time. We don’t do this so that we can wallow in our own self-pity over it (this is actually a huge problem for me). However, the only way that we will ever really better ourselves is to be aware of the stupid things that we do and say so that we can change.
I get so frustrated when I see someone post on Facebook that “you just have to accept me for who I am because I just say and do what I want.” Okay, if you are offending that many people that you have to place a disclaimer up about it, maybe there is something you can change about yourself.
Listen, we are all in a constant state of self-improvement, or at least we should be. One of the best ways to move forward with this is to acknowledge the stupid decisions that we make and then choose to not repeat them.
I can proudly say that, at 43 years of age, I have now stopped attempting to hook up with all of my best friends girlfriends. A majority of that is due to being married to the most amazing woman alive for the past 14 years but I would also like to think that, maybe, I became a better person along the way as well.
Life is Strange. Live it Well.