Recently, I threw an old friend of mine right under the bus. Now, I don’t make a habit of this and I’m fairly certain that he wouldn’t have been offended by it regardless. I mean, our malfeasance took place twenty-five years ago and was limited to little more than teenage shenanigans. Probably not a big deal.
I’m more grateful that, twenty-five years later, we’re still friends. I mean that’s a long time and a handful of relocations later. He and I don’t live in the same town anymore but make it a point to stay fairly connected.
Not everyone can say that.
As individuals age and move from place to place, our social circles change. They also have a tendency to shrink as we age. Living in Highland, my social circle, for the most part, is my family and some friends that I have made through my wife who has gotten out of the house and into Highland more frequently than I have.
In between my childhood home and my current place of residence, I have lived in five other towns, picking up friends along the way. I still keep in touch with many of them but rarely get the opportunity to sit down and visit with any of them.
This is especially true of the friends that I made in Virginia as a fourteen-hour drive is quite a haul for anyone to make. However, rumor has it that a couple of people that I worked with at Patrick Henry Family Services will be making it out to visit me in January.
Now, I have developed quite a few friendships with the people that I work with. However, our friendships are limited to the workplace and Facebook. Buy, I still count them among my social circle.
I have a sixteen-year-old living in my house now who cannot wrap his mind around anything outside of his high school social circle. We had a conversation a couple of nights ago about his upcoming senior year. He has the opportunity to spend half of his day working outside of the school.
He admits that this would be an excellent opportunity to save up some money for a car and college. But….. it would cut into his socialization so he is stumped. What to do?
I told him that either decision would not be a bad one and that he really just needed to do what he felt was in his best interest. I was quick to point out that, for the most part, our high school relationships (unless I was an exception to the rule) don’t tend to take up the majority of our social circle as we age.
That’s just the way it is.
Now I have this song stuck in my head.
As adults, the majority of our social circle is comprised of people who we work with or live near. With that said, what’s your point Strange? None really.
I’m just thankful for the people who have become a part of my life. I haven’t always been the best friend, but you all definitely have. Maybe you have friends like that in your life as well. Let them know.
Life is Strange. Live it Well.