One of the greatest struggles that a person will have as they transition from their childhood into their adult years is understanding who they are. What is my identity? Am I really nothing more than what other people see in me? Is my identity tied to something buried deep within myself? Is it created by my desires or does it stem from my actions (these really are two completely different places)? Is my identity based on this physical space that I occupy or is it anchored in a spiritual place and to a deity that dwells in that location (I won’t get all theological on you here but would love to discuss this very thing if you are interested)? Continue reading “Nicknames”
My wife and I made a decision, about 7 or 8 years ago, that we would home school our children. That decision has been met by a myriad of differing opinions (not that it is the business of anyone but us) in regards to this decision. Many people have been in support of this decision, as homeschooling tends to produce a unique type of brain that scores higher on standardized testing (look up the studies in these regards if you don’t believe me). Others criticized our decision based on their belief that our children would fall behind their peer group or become socially retarded because they grow up in a bubble. Continue reading “Everyone Learns Differently, Part 2”
Well. It’s about that time again. The school year has wound itself down. The residents are all making plans to go home. By the end of this evening, I will have one boy in my home that is not mine biologically. We do this every spring. We have now for the past eight years. This is the last time. Continue reading “On The Road Again”
When we moved to Virginia two years ago, we said that we would be house parenting for no more than two more years. Sydney was getting too old to live in a house full of hormonal teenage boys. My plan was to continue on at PHFS in a management position after I finished school. Continue reading “Coming Home … For Good”
I rolled back into my back drive around 3 or 4 o’clock this past Saturday. Spring Break was over. The next day, we would be back to work spanking butts (we don’t actually do that) and feeding faces. The job is a great one. You would be hard-pressed to find something more fulfilling to do as an occupation than providing for the care of children. However, the break was nice. They always are. So, here’s the recap… Continue reading “Spring Break – 2018 Edition”
In the line of work that my wife and I do (we are house parents at a group home facility), we see many children that are falling through the cracks in life. In eight years as house parents, we have housed over seventy kids for reasons that vary from neglect to truancy to abuse. Not every parent that has brought their kids to us have been neglectful. Many of them are wonderful parents who have just lost control of their homes and are looking for help. Continue reading “Get Help”
A few months ago, I began writing a book that delves into the mistakes that we often make in parenting that can become huge if they are not handled correctly. I think you probably know what I’m talking about. This is not a book about child abuse and sexual misconduct. It is more along the lines of boundary issues and building trust. Continue reading “How To Raise Kids Without Ruining Them”
I think one of the greatest things that a person can do in their lives is to provide for the care and wellbeing of a child. The majority of the population do that through their own children and that in itself, if done correctly, is an amazing blessing. However, there is a growing need for people to step in an provide for children that are not their own.