I am a huge fan of routine. I like to know what I am going to be doing on each given day. Don’t mess with that. Don’t change my schedule. It makes me cranky and hard to live with. It is comforting to have a plan that I can rely on. However, life is strange. It’s … More What do you do?
In the line of work that my wife and I do (we are house parents at a group home facility), we see many children that are falling through the cracks in life. In eight years as house parents, we have housed over seventy kids for reasons that vary from neglect to truancy to abuse. Not … More Get Help
Fear is defined as an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain or a threat. In previous writings, I have detailed my fear of swimming in water where I was not able to see my feet. What is swimming below me? Is it going to bite me? … More Felt Safety
A few months ago, I began writing a book that delves into the mistakes that we often make in parenting that can become huge if they are not handled correctly. I think you probably know what I’m talking about. This is not a book about child abuse and sexual misconduct. It is more along the … More How To Raise Kids Without Ruining Them
Last Saturday, Elisa and I celebrated anniversary number eleven by (as we usually end up doing on our anniversary) working. That’s just how it has always worked out. Not a big deal. Tons of people are scheduled to work on their anniversary. We did not even consider taking the day off. However, one of the … More A somewhat unexpected surprise
Back in April of this past year, my family and I loaded up in our 18-year-old Ford Expedition and a U-Haul and began a 650-mile journey across the country from Illinois to Virginia to begin a new chapter in our lives. We worked as house parents at Baptist Children’s Home in Illinois and had been … More There is more to it than just moving
I have been house parenting in group homes for a little over seven years now and have had something like 70 or so kids in my house during that time. Most of that time was spent at BCH in Illinois. However, this past April, we moved out to Virginia to continue this work with Patrick … More Everybody Wants to Rule the World
My boss (one of them) has her own blog and often puts up her opinions and observations about life in general but more specifically, things that trouble her. Yesterday was one of those days. She posted up a blog about the church’s negligence in regards to caring for children who are falling through the cracks.
I think one of the greatest things that a person can do in their lives is to provide for the care and wellbeing of a child. The majority of the population do that through their own children and that in itself, if done correctly, is an amazing blessing. However, there is a growing need for … More Help my friends adopt a child
Okay. I will preface this post with a description of my job for those of you who do not know much about what I do. For the past 6+ years, my wife Elisa and I have worked in a group home setting taking care of teenage boys. It is similar to foster care except we … More An empty house is a quiet house