Two years ago today, I was lying on one of the beaches of Ocracoke Island, my feet planted firmly in the sand as the waves of the ocean rippled around them. The sun shining down on my face provided a feeling of satisfaction that cannot often be matched. I was made for the ocean. There really is nothing else like it. Today, I am sitting in my kitchen, attempting to draw my mind back to that day. Two years later, the memory is still there, if mainly propped up by the pictures that we took that day. Continue reading “Ocracoke Island”
When we moved to Virginia two years ago, we said that we would be house parenting for no more than two more years. Sydney was getting too old to live in a house full of hormonal teenage boys. My plan was to continue on at PHFS in a management position after I finished school. Continue reading “Coming Home … For Good”
I rolled back into my back drive around 3 or 4 o’clock this past Saturday. Spring Break was over. The next day, we would be back to work spanking butts (we don’t actually do that) and feeding faces. The job is a great one. You would be hard-pressed to find something more fulfilling to do as an occupation than providing for the care of children. However, the break was nice. They always are. So, here’s the recap… Continue reading “Spring Break – 2018 Edition”
I have been re-reading The Ideal Team Player by Patrick Lencioni lately. I don’t know if any of you have read the book before but it is excellent and a very easy read. The book deals with the workplace and how to put together the perfect team. However, for the most part, it is written as a story. Continue reading “Learn Your Way Through It”
I feel really down today.
Like, I didn’t even want to get out of bed and go to church this morning. I don’t know if it’s the weather (currently rainy), or me…. or maybe both. Whatever the case, I am really struggling to be present today. Some things, in life, haven’t been lining up exactly as I planned lately, and that could be part of it. Who knows?
My mindset today is one of counting down the minutes until I can go back to bed. Continue reading “Our Emotions Will Fail Us”
I am a huge fan of routine. I like to know what I am going to be doing on each given day. Don’t mess with that. Don’t change my schedule. It makes me cranky and hard to live with. It is comforting to have a plan that I can rely on. However, life is strange. It’s very fragile and it will change on you when you are least expecting it. We have to be ready and willing to pick up and go when it’s necessary. Continue reading “What do you do?”
In the line of work that my wife and I do (we are house parents at a group home facility), we see many children that are falling through the cracks in life. In eight years as house parents, we have housed over seventy kids for reasons that vary from neglect to truancy to abuse. Not every parent that has brought their kids to us have been neglectful. Many of them are wonderful parents who have just lost control of their homes and are looking for help. Continue reading “Get Help”
Fear is defined as an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain or a threat. In previous writings, I have detailed my fear of swimming in water where I was not able to see my feet. What is swimming below me? Is it going to bite me? Am I only moments away from being in pain? From what I have read, this is actually a fairly common fear. Continue reading “Felt Safety”
A few months ago, I began writing a book that delves into the mistakes that we often make in parenting that can become huge if they are not handled correctly. I think you probably know what I’m talking about. This is not a book about child abuse and sexual misconduct. It is more along the lines of boundary issues and building trust. Continue reading “How To Raise Kids Without Ruining Them”